1) Describe someone in your life you might not know as well as you think you know… From Mama Kat’s Writing WorkshopThe Learning Curve
AMP and I have been married 2 years and 4 months. We started dating 5 years ago summer/fall. I like to think that after that amount of time, I know him well.
And I do. I can rattle off any number of random facts, likes and dislikes. I can tell you how he’ll react or respond in most situations. But, every day I seem to learn something new about my husband. That’s normal I guess. After all, what else is a lifetime for if not to learn more about each other and grow together as a couple?
When we got married, it was the first time we lived together and spent the night together. It was strange, and absolutely wonderful, to wake up next to him. It was interesting to learn his quirks and idiosyncrasies. How was I to know that shampoo bottles in the shower would make him cringe? Or that he would rather have dishes on the counter than piled in the sink? It was a learning process. We learned what would make each other tick, and what we had to compromise on. We learned to live with each other’s quirks and idiosyncrasies. And we’re still learning.
I love learning new things about him. I think we covered all the major, life changing, deal breaking details while we were dating. I know how he feels about marriage and how he abhors cheating. I know that he’d rather not have children. I know that he needs a certain amount of alone time.
I’m talking about the little details. The details of his childhood; the opinions I never realized he held; the nuances of his feelings and thoughts.
While watching The Soloist a few weeks ago, I learned that AMP played the cello for two years.
While visiting with my mother-in-law, I learned that he’s been a morning person since birth basically. She told me that they knew it was time to teach him how to tell time when he started bringing her coffee at 4 a.m.
While driving the other day, I learned more about his past – the girls I’d rather didn’t exist, but that I can’t help being curious about. I learned more about his feelings about his relationship with his father. I learned how these things have made a difference in his life, his emotions and his personality.
AMP is still the same person I fell in love with.
The things I learn just add to that person – to the person I chose to spend the rest of my life with.
It helps me to understand him better.
And it makes me love him more each day.