AMP says I overanalyze things too much.
He says I put too much weight on what people say… that I ask too many questions… that I’m incapable of taking things at face value.
I agree. I do waste a lot of time ‘analyzing’ conversations.
Except, in my 15 years plus of dealing with other females, and female friendships, I think I’ve come by that habit honestly.
Women (and men too, sometimes!) don’t often say things without a reason. Witty barbs are thought of and delivered with the precision of a military drill.
If she says something, she means for you to think about it – to wonder what she really means. To have you second-guess yourself. To make you feel bad.
Not all women to every woman of course… But, there are some people, some ‘friends’ that you just know don’t say things ‘just because.’
Sunday was going great… The guys barely left the living room… The women, and kids, were in the kitchen chatting. Kickoff was at 3:30, so I told everyone to come anytime after 2:30 – some people showed up before the game, lots didn’t… Around 5, I got a phone call from two friends who had been invited; they were upset they couldn’t find parking and wanted me to tell them what to do. Unfortunately parking on our street is a little crazy, especially after 5, so I apologized and offered suggestions, but didn’t know what else to say. She told me she’d wasted half-an-hour driving around and was going to check one more time, and then leave if she couldn’t find any parking. She made me feel horrible, about a situation I couldn’t really control.
That was the first thing.
The second thing… I had invited her and her husband. Her husband didn’t come, so naturally I asked if everything was ok. She stumbled over some excuse about him being sick, and I just nodded and said that I hoped he felt better soon. Later, when repeating this conversation to my husband, AMP told me that she actually said to him that her husband didn’t feel like he was actually invited…
AMP says I’m being unreasonable for being upset over that… But, I think that it’s a little ridiculous… First, that she would tell AMP that and not me… and then because everyone was invited the same way…and I fail to see why that was enough for his wife to accept the invitation, and not him. It really pissed me off. So, I’ve decided that next year they are definitely not on the invite list. Every time I’m around this woman, she makes me feel bad about something. She’s loud, and outspoken and thoughtless… And, well I don’t think I need people like that in my life.
What do you think? Is AMP right that I’m being a bit unreasonable in being upset over this?
You can tell me the truth. I promise I won’t cry.