My husband and I have a lot of common… but we’re also very different in some ways.
One big way we’re different: our thoughts on planning and the future.
I like planning. I like knowing what is going to happen, or what might happen. I like having a plan in place, especially when we’re talking about major life changes, such as buying a house, or having a child…. Or even things like future vacations. I like talking about the plan. I worry and fuss, but it helps me to pass the time and think a little less about how impatient I truly am.
AMP’s most common response to my talking is, “that’s a long ways a way.” It doesn’t matter if it’s a month or six months or five years away – most of the time I get the same response. Which is fine. Everyone is different.
But, then all these thoughts and questions get stuck swirling around my head, to drive me crazy.
Months and months ago, AMP agreed that we could start trying for a baby next spring. Originally with the thought of a January baby; however, the more I read blogs and articles I realize that getting pregnant may not be as ‘easy’ as I may have originally thought. So, I have all these worries swirling around: what if it takes me a year to get pregnant? What if I miscarry again? What if I can’t get pregnant? How far are we willing to go to have a baby?
And I’m sure if I insisted, AMP would talk about it, but it would be so under duress that it’ll just get me more frustrated.
So, next month I’ll speak to my gynecologist about my plans to get pregnant next spring and ask her questions like, how far in advance should I get off the pill, how can I ready my body for a pregnancy, etc. At least someone will be willing to give me answers.
How are you and your husband different? How did your husband feel about starting a family?