I like to plan and research.
Case in point: A year before we even intend to start attempting to conceive our first* child, I’ve already made my way through not one, but two pregnancy books, am a daily visitor in the Being Pregnant section at Babble.com, and read every pregnancy article I stumble across. I cross examine my poor pregnant and mommy friends about their experiences with pregnancy, labor, newborns.
So it shouldn’t come as any surprise that I can tell you about pregnancy symptoms, mucous plugs, pros and cons to epidurals, what to expect during labor, what the appropriate amount of weight gain is based on your pre-pregnancy weight and even how much of that weight is baby, placenta, etc.
I can tell you when you’re more likely to start feeling the baby move – at how many weeks you can find out the gender (if baby is cooperative) – and how big your baby is at 27 weeks pregnant.
I can tell you a lot of things for someone who never got past week 5 of her own pregnancy
But, there are two things I am not going to do with my ridiculous amounts of research:
1) Offer unsolicited advice to anyone who is currently pregnant (or trying to conceive)
2) Make decisions about my own future pregnancy
I’m not going to decide now if I’m for or against epidurals. I’m not going to decide now how much weight I will gain (even though this can be out of my control up to a certain extent). I’m not going to decide right now how or when I will share my pregnancy news.
I want to enter my pregnancy armed with knowledge, but with an open mind.
And hopefully, next year at this time, I’ll be in the throes of morning sickness brought on by the first trimester – and we can see how little knowledge I truly have. :)
Did anyone else do massive researching before conceiving? Did it shape your opinions of pregnancy and childbirth?